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Ten Ways To Prevent Despair

October 26, 2016

Depression, anxiety, and suicide rates are high among the chronically ill. Many people are never cured, but they also do not pass away. This means years of day in and day out fatigue, medication routines, and watching life pass from the bedroom window.

If you are ill and entering your second or third decade of aloneness and medical crisis, you are not an anomaly. There are thousands of people lying in beds or on couches in basements feeling isolated and scared. They stare at the ceiling questioning why they should continue treatment for another decade if all that results is staying alive. Too weak and fatigued to pursue hobbies, a person can become so bored that it creates a feeling of anxious suffocation.

Some, like me, recover a little bit, to the point we can work part time and take care of our homes. Loneliness sets in though because we are not well enough to pursue hobbies, travel much, and stay up late to socialize. We are still on treatments and certainly are not symptom-free.

The following points are a few ways I prevented depression during the darkest years, and how I manage to stay afloat now. I am certainly not an expert. These are simply things that work for me, and it is my hope one or two will resonate with you. Continue Reading…


What I learned at a Dolly Parton concert in Autumn

September 17, 2016

Yesterday, as I watched the leaves die their beautiful, colourful death, my heart stirred my mind. Watching this graceful end motivated me to let some things go. As the leaves alter and blow away, I, too, will change and let the dead things drop and the worries blow away. “There is a harmony in autumn” and I seek harmony this season. The lessoning light and warmth is cutting off water and nutrients to the leaves, the chlorophyll is breaking down. In the next couple of weeks I am going to cut off what is no longer serving me and let it all blow away in the wind. There may be moments where my branches lie barren, but this will make room for the new me. When ready, after I nourish my roots for a while and lie dormant in rest, new leaves will bud.

You may be surprised at the list of things I plan to let go of this next little while. Perhaps more surprised, or amused, that most of these ideas came to me at the Dolly Parton concert last night. My husband laughed when I told him being with Dolly is the closest I have felt to God, but her warmth and kindness and faith was inspiring. And I realized that some of the things I am holding on to actually stem from a love of Dolly. So I am giving up the fear of dying, high heels, workaholic tendencies, and big hair. I understand that it is weird to have high heels in the same list as dying, but here goes…. Continue Reading…